Recently, I had the privilege of supporting a family whose loved one made the deeply considered decision to access VAD in NSW.
A few weeks before his passing, I met with him at home. From our first conversation, I sensed both peace and acceptance. He was living with a terminal illness and had chosen to approach the end of his life with clarity, intention, and calm.
We connected over shared experiences, and I felt honoured that he trusted me to guide his farewell. His close friend was there too, an incredible pillar of strength and compassion, who later became a wonderful support to work with after he passed.
As a funeral director, I often walk beside families in moments of profound emotion. But this experience was something different, gentle, deliberate, and deeply human. It was one of the most special ceremonies I’ve ever been a part of, and one I will remember forever. This work continues to change me in ways I never imagined, but I wouldn’t change it for anything.
🌿 Understanding VAD in NSW
In NSW, voluntary assisted dying (VAD) allows eligible adults to choose to access or be administered a prescribed medication to end their life under strict safeguards.
The Voluntary Assisted Dying Act 2022 came into effect on 28 November 2023, and is designed to ensure that this decision is made voluntarily, with full understanding, and free from coercion.
To be eligible, a person must:
- Be 18 years or older and an Australian citizen, permanent resident, or have lived in Australia for at least three continuous years.
- Have lived in NSW for at least 12 months (unless an exemption applies).
- Have an advanced, progressive illness that will cause death within six months (or twelve months for neurodegenerative conditions).
- Be experiencing suffering that they find intolerable.
- Have decision-making capacity and act voluntarily.
You can learn more at:
- NSW Health: Voluntary Assisted Dying – Eligibility and Process
- NSW Legislation: Voluntary Assisted Dying Act 2022
đź’› Practising Non-Judgement and Compassion
Whatever your personal beliefs are about VAD, I think it’s important to approach these conversations with compassion and non-judgement. None of us can truly know the suffering another person is living with, or the courage it takes to face the end of life on their own terms.
My father-in-law once told me about Zen death poems, written by monks and poets in Japan before they pass away. These short, reflective poems capture a person’s final thoughts before consciously leaving their body. I find that quite incredible. There’s a profound peace in being so present, so accepting, and so in tune with life and death that you can write your own closing words.
It reminded me that VAD, at its core, isn’t about controversy, it’s about humanity. It’s about giving people the dignity of choice, and the respect to be heard, supported, and understood.
🌅 The Role of a Funeral Director in VAD Farewells
When someone approaches death with awareness and intention, it changes everything. The tone of the farewell shifts—from shock or loss to peace and presence.
In these ceremonies, my role goes beyond arranging details. It’s about holding space for families to honour their loved one’s courage and to reflect on what it means to live, and to leave, well.
I’m continually reminded that this work isn’t just about funerals. It’s about people. It’s about connection, empathy, and the moments that remind us what it means to be alive.
💬 If You’d Like to Learn More about VAD in NSW
If you or someone you love is exploring end-of-life options, including VAD, I’m here to listen and help you plan a farewell that reflects your wishes and values.
You can reach out for a free, no-obligation chat, sometimes a simple conversation can make all the difference.
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